10 Mistakes In Educating Children

1O Mistakes in educating beloved children. Not a few parents who actually already know, that education for children is a very big responsibility, but it turns out that in reality, a lot of parents are still neglecting and considering this problem. Which in the end because of busyness even ignores the child's education, not even a little attention to their child's development.

Parents only realize, after their children commit acts of disobedience, such as children who like to fight against parents, their attitudes and behavior deviate from religious rules and violate many social rules, and strangely not a few parents who actually blame it entirely on their children. It turns out that there are still many parents who do not realize very well, if in fact their attitude that actually ignores education for their children is the main cause so that the character and behavior or attitude of disobedience to their children grows.

Mistakes in how to educate children are very diverse in form, and it is not realized that mistakes are what contribute to the growth of attitudes and behavior of children's disobedience to parents, or commonly referred to as juvenile delinquency. Here are 10 Mistakes Parents Make in Educating Children

Foster fear and minder in children. Sometimes when children cry, we scare them into stopping crying. We fear them with images of ghosts, genies, the sound of the wind and others. As a result, the child will grow up to be a coward: Afraid of his own shadow, afraid of something that is not really to be feared. For example, afraid to go to the bathroom alone, afraid to sleep alone because of frequent hearing stories about ghosts, jinn and others.  The worse and perhaps unconscious thing is that parents have instilled fear in themselves. Or for example, we worry when they fall and there is blood on his face, hands or knees. In fact, we should be calm and show a smile to face the child's fears. Instead of scaring him, slapping him in the face, or scolding him and exaggerating the problem. As a result, children get louder crying, and will get used to being afraid when they see blood or feel sick.

Educating him to be arrogant, long tongue, arrogant towards others. It was considered a brave gesture. This error is the opposite of the first point. The truth is to be middle-to-the-c. and not excessive and not reduced. Dare not have to be arrogant or arrogant to others. However, a bold attitude that aligns its place and fear if it is something should be feared. For example: fear of lying, because he knows, if God does not like children who like to lie, or fear of dangerous beasts. We teach our children to be brave and not afraid to practice the truth.

Get used to the children living a spree, luxurious and arrogant. With this habit, the child can grow into a child who likes luxury, likes to have fun. Only selfishness, no matter the circumstances of others. Educating children like this can damage the fitrah, kill the attitude of istiqomah in being zuhud in the world, build muru'ah (self-esteem) and truth.

Some parents always give every child wants, without thinking about the good and bad for the child. In fact, not everything his child wants is useful or in accordance with his age and needs. For example, the child asks for a new bag that is trending, even though only a month ago parents bought him a new bag. It's just going to waste money. If children are used to fulfilling all their demands, then they will grow up to be children who do not care about the value of money and the weight of making a living. And they will be the ones who can't spend their money well.

Always fulfill the child's request when crying, especially a young child. It often happens that our young children ask for something. If we reject him for some reason, he will force or pull out his weapon, which is to cry. Eventually, the parent will immediately fulfill his request out of pity or for the child to immediately stop crying. This can cause the child to be weak, whiny and have no identity.

Too loud and monotonous in facing children and exceeding the limits of reasonableness. For example by hitting them to bruises, scolding them with slur and diatribes, or by other harsh ways. This sometimes happens when the child intentionally makes a mistake. He (may) have done it once.

Too Stingy In Children, Exceeding The Limits of Reasonableness There are also parents who are too stingy to their children, so that their children feel less fulfilled needs. In the end, they encourage the children to make their own money in various ways. For example: by stealing, begging others, or by other means. What's worse, there are parents who can leave their children in orphanages to reduce their burden. In fact, there are also those who can sell their children, because they feel unable to afford to live. Naa'udzubillah mindzalik

Not Loving And Loving Them, So That Makes Them Seek Love Outside the Home Until They Find What They Are Looking for. This phenomenon happens a lot. It has caused children to fall into promiscuity – waiyadzubillah– A daughter, for example, because she does not get the attention of her family, seeks attention from men outside her family environment. She feels happy to get the attention of the man, because it often praises him, seduces and so on. Until he is willing to give up his honor for the sake of pseudo-love.

Just pay attention to the physical needs of the child. Many parents think they have given their best for their children. Many parents feel they have provided a good education, nutritious food and drink, good clothes and quality schooling. Meanwhile, there is no effort to educate his children to be true and noble. Parents forget that children are not enough to be given only material. Children also need attention and compassion. If love is not found in his home, he will seek it from others.

Too prejudiced for the child. There are some parents who are always prejudiced to their children. Thinking, if his children are okay and feel no need to worry, never check the condition of his children, do not know close friends of his child, or whatever his activities. Very confident in his children. When suddenly, find his child affected by a disaster or deviant symptoms, such as getting drugs, then parents jolted in shock. Try to cover him up and forgive him immediately. Finally all that was left was useless regret.

That is one of the ten mistakes in educating children that are often done by parents. Maybe we didn't realize we had done it either. Therefore, let us as parents always try to continuously learn and seek knowledge, especially those that have to do with children's education.

In order to avoid mistakes in educating children, which can cause fatal mistakes and be bad for the future of our children. Do not forget to always pray, so that always our children are able to live as a young generation that shalih and shalihah and noble practice, which is beneficial for others.

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