[Here are TIPS] 6 Ways to Educate Sholeh and Sholehah Children Properly | Mr. Sholeh's T-shirt

Educating children sholeh and sholehah is a joint task of father and mother. Can not the burden of educating children sholeh and sholehah only given to mother only. In this modern life, the challenge of educating children is getting bigger. How not, electronic media, internet, print media many teach a culture that is far from Islamic values. What a thing we do not want, if our children become people who disobey us, even be people who deny the Sunnah and oppose his sharia. Naudzabillah min dzalik

Allah SWT will give the priority of educating children in the form of a reward of charity for parents who can educate children to be children who are sholeh and sholehah. Of course, this is a motivation in educating children. Spirit alone is not enough, it needs sufficient provision in educating children sholeh and sholehah. Among the points in educating children sholeh and sholehah are the construction of faith, the construction and habituation of worship, akhlaq education, soul formation, intellectual formation and the construction of social interaction.

1. Build the child's faith.
In educating children sholeh and sholehah, the formation of faith is done in two ways, namely, teaching the belief that Allah always sees our deeds and instills fear in Allah SWT. With the belief that Allah sees the deeds of every servant, it is expected that the child will always do according to His command. Of course, parents must be able to build argumentative thinking in accordance with the level of thinking the child about the existence of the Creator first. With the fear of Allah SWT, it is expected that the child will always stay away from sins wherever he is, in the crowd or alone.

2. Get used to worshiping children.
We should hear the words of Dr. Said Ramadhan al-Buthi in educating children sholeh and sholehah, "In order for the child's creed to be firmly embedded in his soul, he must be watered with water of worship in all kinds and forms. That way his faith will grow strong and strong in the face of storms and trials of life."

The Prophet said, "It is not that a child grows up in worship until death picks him up, but Allah will give him a reward equivalent to 99 rewards of shiddiq (truthful and honest people)."

Teaching children worship is done by inviting children to perform obligatory worship and then sunnah worship. Such as mandatory prayers 5 times, ramadan fasting, sunnah dhuha prayer, Fasting Monday Thursday and so on. Parents must be good at providing transparency in teaching worship to children.

3. Moral and adab education.
Morals are the temperaments that are formed. Children model akhlaq from the surrounding environment, especially parents. In educating akhlaq children sholeh and sholehah the role of parents is very large. Parents should be able to be the first example in teaching praiseworthy akhlaq such as honesty, patience, humility and so on. Parents should also be able to describe the despicable akhlaq-akhlaq to the child, so that the child can avoid it. Parents sometimes have to be assertive when the child performs despicable akhlaq, especially if it happens repeatedly. The Prophet (peace be upon him) once sanctioned a child who betrayed the trust by swerving the child's ear. Imam an-Nawawi mentions in the book of Al-Adzkar: We narrate in the book of Ibn Sinni from Abdullah bin Bisir ash-Shahabi ra. He said, "My mother told me to go to the Prophet with the devil and wine. But I ate some of the wine before it was delivered to the Prophet. When I reached the Prophet(peace be upon him), he reached my ear and said, 'O one who betrayed the promise.'" Children Read the Quran, One of the Characteristics of Success In Educating Children

4. Soul formation.
The formation of children's souls can be done by giving attention and affection, such as caressing, playing and joking together, expressing affection orally, giving gifts and so on. Examples of soul formation in educating children sholeh and sholehah have been exemplified by the Prophet (peace be upon him). Imam Bukhari narrated in his book Al-Adab al-Mufrad that Abu Hurayrah ra. He said, "I heard with both my ears and saw with my eyes, the Prophet (peace be upon him) holding with his hands the palms of his grandsons, Hasan and Husayn. Both of their feet were on the feet of the Prophet. Then he said, 'Go up.' Then they both went up until their feet were above the prophet's chest. Then he said, 'Open your mouth.' Then he kissed her and said, 'O Allah, I love her and I really love her.'"

5. Intellectual formation of children.
Allah raises the degree of knowledge over the worshipers. Parents can give motiavasi to study, both religious science and science and technology. For religious science the status of studying it is fardhu ain, while for science and technology the status is fardhu kifayah. When educating children sholeh and sholehah, parents should be able to guide children to understand Islamic laws, find the right teacher, encourage children to learn Arabic and other foreign languages as needed, direct children according to their scientific interests.

We may have heard the story of Imam Shafii who can memorize the Quran at a young age (7 years). This can not be separated from the role of the little Imam Shafii Mother in teaching Islam to him, choosing the right teacher and motivating him. Until finally in the age of a dozen years Imam Shafii has been able to give fatwas and teachings.

6. Teach interaction with the community.
In educating children sholeh and sholehah, teaching to interact with the community will cause concern and responsibility for children to the problems of the people. Children can be invited to see the lives of farmers and invited to care about them. Children can also be taught Islamic laws about association when interacting with the community. Taught about good friendships. Also understand to children about their role in helping society so that our children do not become an apathetic generation.

Those are the 6 ways to educate children sholeh and sholehah appropriately in facing the modern world today. Educating children is not easy, it takes patience and patience. We add some arguments about the virtues that will be obtained if we have children or we educate children properly according to the guidance of Islamic sharia.

"If a person dies, then his practice is cut off except for three things (namely): alms jariyah, knowledge used, or the do'a child who sholeh" (Hr. Muslim no. 1631)

Hadith The Virtues of Educating Girls

"There was a woman who came to see me with her two daughters. He begged me, but I had nothing but one date. Then I gave him a date. The woman received the dates and divided them in two to give to her two children, while she herself did not eat them. Then the woman got up and went out with her son. After that the Prophet shallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam came and I told him about the event, so the Prophet shallallhu 'alaii wa sallam said, "Whoever is tested with the daughters, then he does good to them, then the girls will be a hindrance from the torment of hellfire" (H.R. Muslim 2629)

"Whoever protects two daughters into adulthood will come on the Day of Resurrection with me" (Anas bin Malik said: The Prophet combined his fingers). (Muslim 2631)

And don't forget to always pray to God that we and our children are always on the straight path. Wallahu nature bishowab.

By the islamic dress admin @kaosbapaksholeh, from various sources