How to Educate Children of Puberty Age In a Directional Manner- TrainingParenting

After reading the signs of puberty in girls, on this page we will focus on how to educate children of puberty.

Puberty is a time when a child experiences physical, psychic and maturity changes in sexual function.

Puberty begins at the age of 8 to 14 and ends at approximately the age of 16 years.

What the hell really happens to our children in puberty, so parents need to give special treatment to their children?

If it were just physical and emotional changes, wouldn't people grow over time?

However, there are exceptions in this puberty.

Puberty is known as the transition from children to adults.

There are many surprises in this time that begin with changes in body shape, the growth of fine hair in certain areas of the body, starting to be attracted to the opposite sex to unstable emotional states.

Your kids don't want to be called kids anymore.

They feel they have a full right to control themselves.

They tend to prefer to spend time with their peers compared to their parents.

Vaginal discharge experienced by girls before menarche, the release of a thick liquid that smells bad aka wet dreams for boys, will leave a sense of confusion and shock for them.

When the child does not have someone who can guide and answer all the confusion, they will try to find out for themselves.

Ask his friend or googling alias looking for answers over the internet.

It is not wrong for the child to ask about his friend's experience.

It is not wrong if the child finds out through the internet.

But, these two sources are certainly not able to provide a directed and responsible answer.

It would be better if the parents themselves answered the confusion of the child.

Because you better understand which answers are wise and able to direct children. Causes of Puberty

Puberty is caused by hormones that are influenced by the pituitary (the center of the entire system of the body's hormone-producing glands).

Thanks to hormones that begin to become active, adolescents begin to undergo physiological changes that eventually become easily distinguishable between women and men.

This is the time when the body produces sex hormones so that the reproductive organs develop maturely and function.

Sex hormones in women are estrogen and progesterone produced in the ovaries.

In men, it is called testosterone and is produced by the testes.

These hormones are present in the blood and affect the tools in the body, resulting in some changes in the physicality of children. How to Educate Children at Puberty

Unlike adult humans, they have gone through various life experiences and have the capacity to take care of themselves as well as distinguish good or bad.

Puberty is a child's first experience of adulthood.

When you're not present with their physical and emotional.

What if they're out there in the wrong environment?

What if they become closer and trust their friends than their parents?

What if unstable emotions lock their ears off parental advice and advice?

What if they have difficulty controlling their 'likes' in the opposite sex, so they are unable to maintain their eyes and genitals?

So, the role of parents is very important in this puberty.

Here are some ways to educate children of the right age of puberty;

Girls may have heard, there will come a time when their breasts grow and stand out.

Boys have talked to each other, after circumcision, their voices will grow and grow thin hair in the pubic.

If parents are not open to children, it will be awkward to talk about these physical changes.

Especially if you consider this material to be discussed with children.

Have a lot of discussions with the child.

When eating, driving or watching TV together.

Take advantage of such time to explore a child's critical attitude by asking questions or asking the child's opinion about something he just saw.

With a pattern like this, they will get used to asking questions and expressing opinions.

You and your child are open to each other.

Thus, the conversation that leads to the reproductive organs is no longer saru.

Become an opportunity for you to educate children about maintaining the outlook and pubic.

So, when is the right time to tell the child about the physical changes he will go through in puberty?

Tell your child when they ask for the first time.

Let's honestly tell me what changes are going to happen.

Try to talk about it from a positive point of view.

Explain it to the child.

Now, you can learn to be an adult. You have the right to make your own decisions. But every action you take will have consequences. The consequences can be both positive and negative.

Tumultuous emotional changes are typical of teenagers.

At any given second, they can become calm and comfortable.

A few seconds later, they could turn upset and disappointed.

The spirit is also easy to go from up to down.

Blocked math scores can ruin your teen's mood.

But, when they see their favorite actors appear in tv commercials, they can immediately forget the value of being blocked.

You can't compensate for their unstable emotions with anger.

You must be extra patient and accept all changes in the child with sincerity and gratitude.

This is the phase in which children will learn to become adults.

His name is also learning. Making a lot of mistakes, it's natural. The point is, you have to be patient, patient and patient.

3. Position yourself as a friend and listener for the child

Why are teenagers synonymous with huras with peers?

Because parents tend to position themselves as advisors.

We are lazy to listen to children. But, so excited when nagging them.

We don't want to hear the child's explanation. But we force them to listen to us.

Of course, this is not fair to children.

Unlike friends who want to understand and listen to their complaints.

Children will assume that parents do not want to respect their opinions.

This is our fault as parents.

Because too often respond to the opinion or request of the child with a ban.

Instead of listening first to the background of children's opinions, we immediatelyjudge that their opinions are wrong and not good.

The way to educate children at puberty is to be friends and listeners to them.

Parents will not lose honor when they have to be friends with their children.

Treat your child as someone you can care about.

They will do the same to you.

Avoid talking nyerocos and ignoring the child's opinions.

Apply the principle, 2 times heard and 1 time speaking.

4. Avoid being overprotective

Just like you when you were young, teenagers also want to explore their youth.

Everything that looks fun in their eyes, wants to be tasted.

To not heed the risks of the 'chips' that they do.

It is at this point that parents usually issue overprotective moves.

The teenager who feels he has grown up, then considers his parents chatty and too much to organize.

The impact of parenting that is too protective is that children become spoiled.

Because they are used to being served and protected by parents excessively.

They do not know and are unable to manage risk.

Give confidence and responsibility to teenagers.

In this phase, you have to teach your child to take responsibility for his or her life.

Gradually, parents must reduce their participation in making decisions related to children's problems.

Simply provide insight and the good and bad consequences of each child's actions.

Then, tell your teen.

Brother, I'm ready to be asked for advice and help at any time.

Even so, you still have to keep an eye on them from afar.

Because teenagers do not have good self-control and enough experience.

Thus, supervision from parents is needed for the evaluation of their actions.

5. Give options, but there are still limits

Teenagers hate being organized and ruled the most.

The more forbidden, the more defiant.

The more pushed, the more it resists.

Encourage your child to make rules together.

Discussion and negotiation is the right method of communication for them.

So, what rules do you need to make with teenagers?

It all depends on the condition of your family.

For example, children should go straight back home after school.

If the child refuses, then ask them to disclose the offer along with the reason.